Happy new year to one and all! I hope everyone’s was safe, happy, and fulfilling and I hope going back to work yesterday wasn’t torture :). I didn’t get much sleep on Sunday night because I was thinking about all I had to do at work, but I had a surprisingly productive day.

I got into work and the first thing I did was go through my email inbox and get everything done that only required a quick response or fix. I can’t tell you how much more organized that made me feel. Then, I went through my normal routine until around 11:30. I decided then that I was going to go for a walk–I needed to stretch my legs and I really needed to look at something besides a computer screen for awhile. I didn’t overthink it and I think that was the key. It was freezing yesterday (and still is today), but I was able to walk around inside the train station enough to feel like I did something. I didn’t try to talk myself out of it and come up with excuses, I just did it.

This, my friends, is the secret (I think). Don’t self-sabotage! It gets better: I came home yesterday, made dinner, and stopped myself from grabbing a second helping just because it was there. I checked in with myself: am I full? Yes? Okay! I kept it simple and didn’t argue with myself. Then, I made my lunch for today and went to bed early with a book. No internal dialogue needed, I just did it.

I’m not trying to say that all of a sudden I am an amazing person who has defeated her demons and will now be successful at everything I do (far, far from it). But I felt so good not to argue with myself yesterday and to just do. Ironically, I read an article last night when I came home from work that addresses this issue: This is How Often Women Criticize Themselves Every Day. I can tell you the first thing I said to myself when I read that UK women criticize themselves at least eight times a day: Oh, it’s more than that. How scary is that? Obviously, that popped into my head because of my own personal experience. I really had to sit back and think about that: what am I telling myself every single day that is preventing me from feeling confident and doing great things?

Ladies, gentlemen, everyone: stop that negative voice in its tracks AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! Don’t let it overtake you! It’s so dangerous and I wonder just how much could be accomplished by people if that negativity was shut down. I’m going to do my best today to not let it get to me: I’ll take a walk at lunch, eat healthy, go home and maybe do something that makes me happy. Then, I’ll let myself get some sleep and I’ll do my best to stop the bad thoughts swirling around my brain.

All we can do is try.

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