This past weekend, my best friend and I treated ourselves to a wine tasting in the city, followed by a nice, quiet dinner. I haven’t felt so refreshed after seeing a friend in I can’t remember how long. We talked about everything–work, our families and friends, what we’ve both been doing recently–and we both were able to laugh and let off steam in equal measure. I highly recommend taking a few hours to hang out with a good friend, doing whatever you want to do–it’s good for the soul.

Talking about work with someone else who doesn’t do what I do was immensely helpful to me. Sure, I complained about the little things about my job that annoy me, but I also talked about what I enjoy doing day to day. She asked thoughtful questions about different aspects of my job that made me sit and think about what I do. I also thought about what I really like or love about my job. I think that kind of introspection is important and I certainly don’t do it enough. Talking with her made me consider where I want to go in my career as well as in my life–do I want to stay in the area I’m in, both in my job and in my home? If I do want to change jobs, what else am I interested in? Do I even want to make a change like that?

These types of questions are something that everyone should ask themselves from time to time. I think it’s important to do a kind of self check-in–how am I doing? Am I happy? If not, why not? If so, why? These questions, even if they sound simple and straightforward, take a lot of thought and introspection. I hadn’t done a check-in with myself in a long time because, in general, I’m pretty happy. I do think, though, that when a person is happy it’s a good time to assess goals and ideas for the future. I’ll make this confession: one of my biggest fears is feeling complacent in any area of my life. I never want to be afraid of or reluctant to change because I know that it’s so easy for me to stay where and as I am for a long time (I am afraid of change).

So go ahead–find that good friend (or group of friends) and hang out, talk, laugh, complain, and make each other think :).

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