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Every so often, my company does something for its employees to give us a bit of a break in our hectic schedules. Today was ice cream day; a local ice cream shop brings a cart by and we all get free ice cream and time to hang out and enjoy it. As I was waiting in line to get my delectable cup of salted chocolate ice cream, I stood talking to my coworker and friend. We talked a little bit about work, but we quickly moved on to talking about what’s going on in both of our lives. I felt (and still feel, hours later) calm and capable after that mid-day break.

I’m sure I’ve said this before in some way, but I really appreciate this company. They go out of their way to organize events like ice cream day which may seem small to some people, but it is a nice thing for employees. The company doesn’t have to go and spend money on ice cream or a party (2 a year in fact–a Christmas party and a Spring picnic), but they do. Sometimes, those seemingly small gestures go a long way, in my estimation, to creating a comfortable work environment. I forgot all about ice cream day today until the little reminder popped up in my Outlook. I forced myself to look away from article proofs, stretch my arms and legs, and get up and go downstairs to stand around, eat, and talk.

My friend and I had a lovely afternoon conversation and I got to enjoy some of the best ice cream I’ve ever had (honestly). I’ll take that over an hour of answering email correspondence any day :).

Do any of your employers or schools go out of their way to do things for their employees/students?



Hello, lovely readers! I will not be posting anything about the election except to say: thank goodness it’s over. It was draining to continually read about, hear, and see such negativity from all sides. Anyway, I wanted to talk today about working together at your job, school, and in your relationships. I’m an introvert and sometimes I spend so much time by myself that I think I can do anything on my own, but that’s not 100% true. I can do a lot of things on my own–things I never would have thought of before and that makes me proud of myself. There are times, though, when it is necessary for me to reach out to others for help, even if it’s difficult. It’s hard to ask for help; it can feel demeaning, but that’s not what it should feel like.

I reached out to coworkers recently to help me with various parts of my workload. I was feel overwhelmed and I needed someone else to help me through, and I’m so glad I asked. No one hesitated to give me all the help they could offer and if someone was also busy, that was okay too. We’re all human and there’s only so much we can do at a time! I also reached out to some close friends recently. I was feeling run-down emotionally and it was so comforting to just talk, laugh, and have a good time without any pressure. I didn’t even talk all that much about what was bothering me–it was enough to just be with them.

No matter what the situation is, you should feel comfortable reaching out to friends, family, or coworkers for help. It’s healthy to realize and accept that we all have limits. We are not perfect and it’s okay to not be able to handle everything life throws at us. Don’t be embarrassed–reach out!


Hello everyone! Happy, happy Thanksgiving week! I hope you are spending it with friends and family wherever you are reading this.

I absolutely love this week–I love that my office is sort of empty because lots of people have gone home already; I love that my train ride is that much more relaxing because so few people are on it; I love waking up Thanksgiving morning whenever I want and slowly making my way up to my parents’ house. My mom and I putter around the kitchen all day and this is how we catch up–I tell her about my week at work and she tells me about hers, we laugh, we talk about books or TV shows; it’s perfect. I’m so looking forward to that. I’m also looking forward to seeing my two favorite dogs: my Boston Terriers Isabelle (right) and Elizabeth (left). Obviously, as you can see from this picture, they’re very regal:

Elizabeth wanted to kiss Isabelle, but Isabelle wasn’t having it.


I also love sitting down to dinner and talking to my family. I live close to them and talk to them often, but not living at home really makes a difference. Everyone is busy and works full-time so we take what we can get to spend time with each other.

I’ve been so blessed this year: I’ve started a new job, gotten a new apartment, and have learned things about myself that I never knew before. I’ve been able to spend time with my family and friends and learned that I could count on them during the worst times. What else could I possibly ask for?

Happy Thanksgiving, readers! Think about all the good in your life this week and be grateful for what you have–I’m telling you, it really makes a difference :).


I was thinking about my schedule for the week while driving home last night, and I thought organization and scheduling would be a great topic to open up for discussion on this blog. I used to make schedules for myself only for schoolwork, which left the rest of my week “free” (which meant I napped or hung out with friends). There’s nothing wrong with that kind of schedule but I need a bit of structure and a little push to accomplish all that I can in one day; otherwise, it’s too easy for me to fall into “Oh, I can do this tomorrow.” Inevitably, “tomorrow” changes into next week or next month. I can put things off and I can convince myself that it’s okay, but there is something valuable in being beholden to myself. If I treated myself with the same respect with which I treat my boss or someone who pays me to complete a task, I would get a lot more accomplished!

In order to realize what is important and what I want to accomplish in one day or one week, it is imperative to be organized. I always thought of myself as an organized person: I tend to be a bit obsessive about the way my pens and post-it notes are arranged on my desk and I have always lived and died by my planner. Obviously, that does not necessarily make me an organized person and I realized this fully when I started my job. An amazing amount of organizational skills and the ability to multi-task are required to do well in my position, and I am adapting each day. Recently, though, I have come to realize that maybe I haven’t been organized enough and also way too organized, both in equal measure. Let me explain. Since I graduated with my Masters, I’ve tried to keep a routine in my life and this was important especially when I was a jobseeker and picking up small, freelance jobs here and there. I had to get used to the fact that I was no longer a student and, in my mind, no longer allowed to lounge around at home with no direction as though I was on a break from classes. I had my future professional life on the line and a schedule had to be made to ensure that I spent a good part of my day networking and searching for job opportunities. The way that I used to organize myself, only by writing down when I had to go to work or when I had class, didn’t work for me anymore. I couldn’t stick to that specific, blocked-out time frame because I no longer had specific blocks of time set aside for work or job-searching. I had to become more organized in a different way. I had to realize that what I want to accomplish in a day doesn’t amount to just work; it includes time with family and friends, and time for myself, too.

In my mind, staying organized doesn’t just mean making a To-Do list and crossing off each task as it’s completed (though I think there’s value in that, too). It’s also about making more time for things that mean the most to you. I want to be healthy and productive, so waking up for work on time and eating breakfast as well as walking or going to the gym are major priorities for me. I want to do what I love, so I make time for writing this blog and doing other projects, as well as some down-time, like reading and listening to music. I want to keep in touch with family members and close friends, so I make sure to email or call my grandmother often, hang out with my cousin, and talk to close friends almost every day. Despite the fact that I have to make time for some of these activities in my busy life, I do not consider them to be chores; in fact, I find that looking at my plan for the week just reminds me that I will have time to do what I already love to do.

I think without this “organized schedule,” I could possibly just fall into a rut where I retreat within myself and go through the motions of my day. I think the difference between my new organized self and my old organized self is purpose. I want to engage with myself and with others, and in order to do that I have to seriously think about what I want to accomplish on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis.


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