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Coming up next month is a big-to-me event: I’ll be turning 30! I went back and forth with myself about whether or not I would write a post about this big birthday milestone, but why not? I’ve talked to some people that said they dreaded turning 30 and others who celebrated it. I identify with the latter group; I’m so ready to be out of my 20s. I think because by the time I turned 28 and then 29, I felt like I was moving forward in different ways than I was in my 20s. I certainly don’t claim to have all the answers, but I’m really getting to know myself and what I like, don’t like, what my dreams are, and how I can work to achieve them. Someone recently told me that she believes a person really gets to know and understand themselves in their 30s, and I’m already starting to feel some of that.

I’ve always been pretty shy and quiet but within the past few years I’ve slowly been gaining more self-confidence and a sense of authority on some things. I don’t feel uncomfortable speaking up at my job anymore; I’ll have been here for 3 years in August (I can’t believe it!), so I feel that I have the right to speak from at least a little bit of experience! I’ve also been making new friends through work and through my other friends. I have a few close friends from growing up, high school, and college that I treasure, and I’m able to make friends with whole new and different groups of people. Not that I couldn’t do that in my early 20s, but I feel as though I’m cultivating deeper, longer lasting friendships now.

One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed recently is that I’m completely comfortable with how I spend my time. Maybe one night I come home after work and want to do nothing–that’s okay! I can sit in my sweatpants, eat dinner, and stare at mindless TV all night if I want. Or, what if on Saturday I want to run around doing errands, hanging out with friends, and more from the minute I wake up until the minute I go to sleep? That’s okay too! I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything or trying to be someone I’m not. That feeling, probably more than any other, is so liberating: I’m becoming me.

I’m excited for what’s ahead and I can’t wait to start this next decade with all of you, dear readers!

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I wanted to take the opportunity in this post to recognize that things are going well for me right now and to express gratitude for them. I read a blog post recently about the importance of gratitude in your every day life and how keeping it in the forefront of your mind at all times will inspire a greater sense of positivity. I’ve been trying to do that these days by writing down what I’m most grateful for, either right when I wake up in the morning or before I fall asleep at night. It’s done wonders for me recently.

Before and during the holidays, I was really slacking on my exercise and as much as I didn’t want to admit it, it was really affecting me. Recently, I’ve made it more of a priority and, just as a small example, I make myself walk on the treadmill desk at work every day. It may seem like a small thing but I feel amazing when I’m finished–I just walked a mile at work without having to leave the building! Although I was wary of the open office plan at first, this is definitely one of the perks. I’m grateful that I have the opportunity to exercise at work even just a little bit.

I’m very grateful for kind, helpful public transit employees. If you know me in real life, you know that I complain about the train a lot, even though I have to take it every day. It’s expensive, not always reliable, and sometimes the employees are not very nice; however, one employee that has been a regular on my morning train has changed my outlook. She is extremely friendly (always greeting us all with a smile and a “Good morning!”),  helpful (she communicates exactly what is going on if there is a delay, even if we are stopped for just one minute waiting for another train to pass. I can’t express how helpful that is. A lot of the time, other employees won’t say a word and will outright ignore you if you ask what’s going on), and she genuinely cares that she does a good job at work. I wrote a commendation to the company yesterday because I wanted them to know how much I appreciate her.

My youngest sister and I took my grandmother out for dinner and drinks last Friday and had a sleepover at my grandmother’s. I’m so grateful that, at almost 30 years old, I still have my grandmother around. I had 2 sets of grandparents, 1 set of great-grandparents, and 1 great-grandmother around until pretty recently and they all played a major role in my life and my upbringing. So, spending time with my grandmother now is pretty special.

These are just a few things I’m grateful for recently, how about you? Also, do you keep a gratitude journal or something similar that you write in every day? Does it help you?

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I cannot believe tomorrow is Thanksgiving! I’ve been saying that over and over to myself since I woke up this morning. Time has been flying recently, to use an old, worn out cliche. I’ve been busy with work so that every day seems to go by quickly. In some ways, I like that but in others I don’t. I don’t want to feel like my world is passing me by while I work and look forward to something coming up in the future.

I thought I would use this post to stop for a moment amid all of this craziness and think about what makes me happy and what I feel grateful for in my life right now:

  1. My family-my sisters, nephews, parents, grandmother, and my extended family. Where would I be without them? I’m especially mindful of that this time of year because so many people don’t have family or they prefer not to spend their holiday with their family. I’m so lucky to have the family that I do.
  2. My friends. What would I do without them? When I need to laugh, cry, vent, celebrate, whatever–they’re there for me. I’m going out with a friend after work today and I’m so thankful that we are both able to do that together.
  3. My job. I’m so happy to have a job that keeps me busy doing work that I enjoy every day. I am able to challenge myself in this line of work and I’m able to live because I get paid to do it.

I am thankful for so much more in my life, but that list contains what is most important to me right now in my life. I wouldn’t be the person I am without that list so, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.

What you thankful for this Thanksgiving?

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This past weekend, my best friend and I treated ourselves to a wine tasting in the city, followed by a nice, quiet dinner. I haven’t felt so refreshed after seeing a friend in I can’t remember how long. We talked about everything–work, our families and friends, what we’ve both been doing recently–and we both were able to laugh and let off steam in equal measure. I highly recommend taking a few hours to hang out with a good friend, doing whatever you want to do–it’s good for the soul.

Talking about work with someone else who doesn’t do what I do was immensely helpful to me. Sure, I complained about the little things about my job that annoy me, but I also talked about what I enjoy doing day to day. She asked thoughtful questions about different aspects of my job that made me sit and think about what I do. I also thought about what I really like or love about my job. I think that kind of introspection is important and I certainly don’t do it enough. Talking with her made me consider where I want to go in my career as well as in my life–do I want to stay in the area I’m in, both in my job and in my home? If I do want to change jobs, what else am I interested in? Do I even want to make a change like that?

These types of questions are something that everyone should ask themselves from time to time. I think it’s important to do a kind of self check-in–how am I doing? Am I happy? If not, why not? If so, why? These questions, even if they sound simple and straightforward, take a lot of thought and introspection. I hadn’t done a check-in with myself in a long time because, in general, I’m pretty happy. I do think, though, that when a person is happy it’s a good time to assess goals and ideas for the future. I’ll make this confession: one of my biggest fears is feeling complacent in any area of my life. I never want to be afraid of or reluctant to change because I know that it’s so easy for me to stay where and as I am for a long time (I am afraid of change).

So go ahead–find that good friend (or group of friends) and hang out, talk, laugh, complain, and make each other think :).

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