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Coming up next month is a big-to-me event: I’ll be turning 30! I went back and forth with myself about whether or not I would write a post about this big birthday milestone, but why not? I’ve talked to some people that said they dreaded turning 30 and others who celebrated it. I identify with the latter group; I’m so ready to be out of my 20s. I think because by the time I turned 28 and then 29, I felt like I was moving forward in different ways than I was in my 20s. I certainly don’t claim to have all the answers, but I’m really getting to know myself and what I like, don’t like, what my dreams are, and how I can work to achieve them. Someone recently told me that she believes a person really gets to know and understand themselves in their 30s, and I’m already starting to feel some of that.

I’ve always been pretty shy and quiet but within the past few years I’ve slowly been gaining more self-confidence and a sense of authority on some things. I don’t feel uncomfortable speaking up at my job anymore; I’ll have been here for 3 years in August (I can’t believe it!), so I feel that I have the right to speak from at least a little bit of experience! I’ve also been making new friends through work and through my other friends. I have a few close friends from growing up, high school, and college that I treasure, and I’m able to make friends with whole new and different groups of people. Not that I couldn’t do that in my early 20s, but I feel as though I’m cultivating deeper, longer lasting friendships now.

One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed recently is that I’m completely comfortable with how I spend my time. Maybe one night I come home after work and want to do nothing–that’s okay! I can sit in my sweatpants, eat dinner, and stare at mindless TV all night if I want. Or, what if on Saturday I want to run around doing errands, hanging out with friends, and more from the minute I wake up until the minute I go to sleep? That’s okay too! I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything or trying to be someone I’m not. That feeling, probably more than any other, is so liberating: I’m becoming me.

I’m excited for what’s ahead and I can’t wait to start this next decade with all of you, dear readers!



Happy new year, readers! I had quite a nice 2017 and I’m hoping to have an even better 2018. Things are already looking up! I began the new year with a few thoughts that I’d like to share with you all:

  1. For starters, I didn’t make any new year’s resolutions; personally, I feel that making a resolution and then inevitably failing at it just makes me feel bad and creates more stress when there is no need for that. Why create more stress when outside forces give me stress as it is? I put so much pressure on myself to achieve the goal I set for the new year that I end up getting completely off track. Enough of that!
  2. Instead of a formal “resolution,” I thought I’d improve some things that I’m already doing, like going to the gym. I go several times a week and I thought, why not up my game a little? I typically spend about 45 minutes at the gym, so maybe I’ll spend a full hour there instead. Or I’ll switch up my workout routine more often (I walk a lot and occasionally will use the bike, so why not use the elliptical or weights instead?).  This goes for eating as well: no pressure, but if I’m already making a certain meal, how can I make it healthier? What are some substitutions I can make?
  3. I’m going to think about what is good for me. If I need some quiet time away from people, I want to take that time without feeling guilty. If I’m really craving a piece of chocolate and I have some in my cabinet, I can have one! I’m striving to wake up each morning and ask myself, “What do you want today?” I think that’s a pretty positive thought to begin 2018.

With these ideas in mind, I’m thinking 2018 will be one great year. I’m optimistic and I have high hopes for this one! How about your new year’s resolutions or lack thereof? Is there anything you promised yourself you would or would not do this year? Tell me!


Every so often, my company does something for its employees to give us a bit of a break in our hectic schedules. Today was ice cream day; a local ice cream shop brings a cart by and we all get free ice cream and time to hang out and enjoy it. As I was waiting in line to get my delectable cup of salted chocolate ice cream, I stood talking to my coworker and friend. We talked a little bit about work, but we quickly moved on to talking about what’s going on in both of our lives. I felt (and still feel, hours later) calm and capable after that mid-day break.

I’m sure I’ve said this before in some way, but I really appreciate this company. They go out of their way to organize events like ice cream day which may seem small to some people, but it is a nice thing for employees. The company doesn’t have to go and spend money on ice cream or a party (2 a year in fact–a Christmas party and a Spring picnic), but they do. Sometimes, those seemingly small gestures go a long way, in my estimation, to creating a comfortable work environment. I forgot all about ice cream day today until the little reminder popped up in my Outlook. I forced myself to look away from article proofs, stretch my arms and legs, and get up and go downstairs to stand around, eat, and talk.

My friend and I had a lovely afternoon conversation and I got to enjoy some of the best ice cream I’ve ever had (honestly). I’ll take that over an hour of answering email correspondence any day :).

Do any of your employers or schools go out of their way to do things for their employees/students?


I commute to work every day and the time from my front door to my desk chair is about one hour. A majority of that one hour is spent on the train itself, where I usually read or listen to music (I highly enjoy doing both of these things and they help calm and prepare me for the day ahead). On the train ride home yesterday, though, I had a thought: how can I use my commute more productively? I don’t think for one minute that reading or listening to music or talking to a friend is unproductive, but I wondered how I could use my commute to make my life at home just a little bit easier. Here is what I came up with:

  1. Use the time to create lists: grocery lists, general household to-do lists, even work lists. I am a notorious procrastinator and having a concrete plan helps me to avoid falling into that trap. I hate going to the grocery store, but having a list of what I need makes it easier for me to go. Sometimes everything I want to (or need to) do around my apartment can seem overwhelming, but when I make a list of my priorities and what I’ll need to accomplish them, these tasks seem easier to tackle. Also, since I occasionally do freelance work on the side, making to-do lists and listing the specific steps I will take to accomplish those tasks make working after work seem a lot less daunting.
  2. Catch up with friends and familySometimes when I get home from work, the temptation to dive right in to Netflix and not speak to anyone can be overwhelming (especially for an introvert like me). But it is important, especially because I live alone, to remain in regular contact with my friends and family. There have been instances before where the following thought suddenly struck me: “Hey, when was the last time I talked to my mom or dad?” And that’s not right. I can use my commute time to make a phone call (when I’m not on the quiet ride car) or to text my family and friends and stay in touch.
  3. Think and write about more long-term goals. I guess this could technically be classified under my first point, but I would rather have it separate. I believe this is a very important point because I do have long-term goals that may seem hazy to me, but with a little forethought and planning they could be realized with a lot less stress. For example, I don’t want to rent forever so what are the specific steps I must take if I want to own a home someday? I also want to eventually buy a new car (hopefully not for a long time!), so how can I do that? Am I happy in my current career path or is it time for a change? These are the kinds of questions everyone should ask themselves, but I find it especially helpful for me at this stage in my life. And sometimes when I’m home after dinner and I’m relaxing, thinking about these things and jotting down ideas seems too overwhelming.

These are just a few ideas I came up with to make my commute more productive for me. And I don’t want to pressure myself to do these things every day, but two or three times a week makes sense and will probably make my life a lot easier!

How about you? Do you have any tips for a more productive commute?



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