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Does anybody else ever feel that their day is over when they make a mistake or fail to follow a regimen they set for themselves? For example, as you know, I’ve been meditating in the morning to make a calm start to my day; so, when that doesn’t happen for one reason or another, sometimes I feel as though the entire day is a wash from the start. I also feel this way about food (“I’m going to eat healthy today!” *Eats a bagel sandwich for breakfast* “Well, that ruined it so I may as well just forget this day and eat a cheesesteak for lunch….”). This morning, I really had to have a talk with myself–this is a negative way to view my day!

I woke up this morning and didn’t have time to meditate or center myself because I am pet-sitting my neighbor’s dog. I had to quickly get ready and run next door to feed the dog and let him out before rushing to the train. As I was making my way down the hill to the station, I could already feel myself mentally tipping off-balance and I was so tempted to just give up. I got to the station earlier than I thought I would (and the train was late, as usual), so I had a few quiet minutes to not exactly make up for not meditating this morning, but to close my eyes and calm myself as much as possible. I wouldn’t allow myself to write off the day yet; if I had, I would have gotten in to work and completed my tasks for the day half-heartedly or in a state of anxiety. I didn’t want that and I didn’t want to feel that I wasted an entire 24 hours just because something didn’t go exactly the way I planned it. When does anythinever go perfectly, anyway?

My point is this: Don’t give up on yourself even if you didn’t complete a task or you made a mistake. The day is long and it goes on! You have the ability to decide how you will live and part of that is deciding how you will mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the day, week, or month ahead. Everyone is imperfect (and I think that is what’s beautiful about the world)–embrace it and learn to pick yourself up and move on!



I can’t stress the power of positive thinking enough. I’ve been going through a rough patch this past week or two with heightened stress levels at work (for no reason in particular) and, due to that, I haven’t been sleeping as well as I could be at night. It’s a vicious cycle. There have been days where I come home from work and just want to sit on the couch with no stimulation whatsoever because my mind just keeps racing. Well, I finally put my foot down and I’m not allowing myself to fall into a black hole again this week.

I woke up yesterday morning and I refused to feel bad just because it was a Monday. I also refused to think about work until I was actually sitting at my desk, going through my e-mails later in the morning. I took a shower, put on an outfit that makes me feel confident, listened to my favorite music, and ate breakfast. When I got into work, I continued to listen to music (classical is my favorite when I have a busy day), took a walk at lunch, and actually kicked Monday’s butt. I got a lot done and I felt like a superhero when I left my building yesterday afternoon.

I had some more work to do that night when I got home (I do freelance work on the side), but I made sure I gave myself some down time before I started it. I made myself a nice dinner, read my book, and watched some TV before I dove into my work for another hour or so. I went to bed at a decent time and yes, I did wake up twice during the night, but both times it was for only a few minutes. I don’t feel overwhelmed this morning and I’m ready to kick another day’s butt :).

By refusing to allow myself to think negatively, I made myself feel better. I played a kind of trick on myself and I’m telling you, it worked! Do you ever play tricks on yourself to get out of a rut?



Happy new year to one and all! I hope everyone’s was safe, happy, and fulfilling and I hope going back to work yesterday wasn’t torture :). I didn’t get much sleep on Sunday night because I was thinking about all I had to do at work, but I had a surprisingly productive day.

I got into work and the first thing I did was go through my email inbox and get everything done that only required a quick response or fix. I can’t tell you how much more organized that made me feel. Then, I went through my normal routine until around 11:30. I decided then that I was going to go for a walk–I needed to stretch my legs and I really needed to look at something besides a computer screen for awhile. I didn’t overthink it and I think that was the key. It was freezing yesterday (and still is today), but I was able to walk around inside the train station enough to feel like I did something. I didn’t try to talk myself out of it and come up with excuses, I just did it.

This, my friends, is the secret (I think). Don’t self-sabotage! It gets better: I came home yesterday, made dinner, and stopped myself from grabbing a second helping just because it was there. I checked in with myself: am I full? Yes? Okay! I kept it simple and didn’t argue with myself. Then, I made my lunch for today and went to bed early with a book. No internal dialogue needed, I just did it.

I’m not trying to say that all of a sudden I am an amazing person who has defeated her demons and will now be successful at everything I do (far, far from it). But I felt so good not to argue with myself yesterday and to just do. Ironically, I read an article last night when I came home from work that addresses this issue: This is How Often Women Criticize Themselves Every Day. I can tell you the first thing I said to myself when I read that UK women criticize themselves at least eight times a day: Oh, it’s more than that. How scary is that? Obviously, that popped into my head because of my own personal experience. I really had to sit back and think about that: what am I telling myself every single day that is preventing me from feeling confident and doing great things?

Ladies, gentlemen, everyone: stop that negative voice in its tracks AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! Don’t let it overtake you! It’s so dangerous and I wonder just how much could be accomplished by people if that negativity was shut down. I’m going to do my best today to not let it get to me: I’ll take a walk at lunch, eat healthy, go home and maybe do something that makes me happy. Then, I’ll let myself get some sleep and I’ll do my best to stop the bad thoughts swirling around my brain.

All we can do is try.

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My first self-evaluation for my job is due this Friday. The email from my supervisor was sitting in my inbox last Thursday morning and, before I even opened it, I started to feel nervous and unsure of myself. Have I been doing my best? How can I improve? All negative, self-deprecating thoughts. Once I clicked on the evaluation and saw how it is laid out, I felt much more confident. It is a series of specific questions and ways to rate my performance in various areas of my job. And specific, I can do. As I’m sure many of you can tell from my previous posts on this blog, I sometimes suffer from lack of confidence. I think part of that is because I’m still fairly new to the working world and to this job, but I also think another part of it is because that’s just the way I’m wired. I’ve always had to fight with myself to let myself shine, even a little bit. It’s still something that I struggle with every day.

This self-evaluation, like I said, is not as bad as I first thought it would be. This time last year, my performance was reviewed by my supervisor and my manager, since I still was not yet here for a year. I remember waiting for that evaluation meeting and feeling slightly terrified–I didn’t want to have to face all the mistakes I had made since I started work here. I also remember leaving the meeting and feeling great. They didn’t drag me through the mud, not at all–they pointed out where I did things right and, when I had made a mistake, they gave me guided instructions so that I wouldn’t make the same mistake again. And they did this all in a very constructive way. Job evaluations are supposed to be professional. They are used so that you and management are all on the same page in regards to the work that is expected of you and the work that you are actually doing. They are meant to help get those two things as close together as possible.

This time around I’m going to take an hour or two to fill out my self-evaluation. I’m going to really think about how I’ve grown since I first started here a year and four months ago and what steps I’ve taken to do so. I’m also going to think about the areas in which I still can improve, because I know I can sit back and objectively look at my performance. It’s nothing to be afraid of and I’m going to stop scaring myself with the voices I sometimes allow to run rampant in my head. This is an opportunity for me to show management what I have done and what I can still do, and a chance to improve myself for the future. Let’s do it!


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